So we’re going to try something new today. Today is going to be an interactive blog post, if it’s even possible for a blog post to be interactive. But we’re going to try it anyway. We’re going to play a game. Go to the kitchen and get a timer, something to write with, and a piece of paper. …..
No really, do that, I’ll wait…
I promise, this blog post isn’t going anywhere, that’s the amazing thing about the internet, it’s patient.
Ok, now that you have your materials. Set the timer for FIVE minutes. Spend the next five minutes making a list of all the things you like about yourself. Try to be specific. Don’t just say you are beautiful, but instead list out the things that make you beautiful. Do you like your eyes? Your nose? Your hair? Think about what you’re good at doing. What do you like about yourself that makes you good at those things? Are you caring? Good at sharing?
Whatever you do, don’t stop. Keep writing for the entire five minutes.
How did you do? It was hard wasn’t it? Why is that? Why is it so difficult to say nice things about ourselves? As you’ve seen in the previous few blog posts, we’ve been very busy taking this message out into the community. We’ve learned, it’s not just hard for you and I to do this, but it’s hard for everyone at all ages. Even adults have a hard time with this. It’s hard because it’s a skill we don’t practice. We get so used to taking the view of the world as the true view of ourselves that we forget to create our own view of who we are. When we don’t have our own view, it is much more difficult to stand up against bullies. If we aren’t self-assured, it is much more difficult to just walk away. If we aren’t confident in ourselves, it’s even more difficult to stand up for our friends. When we have to do a task that’s difficult or new and we don’t get it right on the first time, if we don’t have a positive view of who we are, it becomes much more difficult to keep going back and trying again. Knowing all the good things about ourselves provides us a vast tank of positive self-esteem to help us fight against the negative thoughts and negative people the world throws at us.
Adults always say that we should have good self-esteem, but rarely does anyone teach us how to get good self-esteem. It can be a learned skill. Maybe you could only write down 8 things in that entire five minutes, that’s ok! That’s 8 great things about you. Keep practicing. I bet as you go through the day today, you’ll think of more things that you should have said. So try this exercise again tomorrow, and then the day after that, and the day after that too! Once you can think of so many things that you can’t write it down fast enough, don’t stop playing the game, let the game grow! Add a new rule, maybe you can’t say anything today that you said yesterday. Use your imagination. There is no limit.
We’d like to know how you did. Leave a comment down below to let us know. Was it hard? Did you ask a friend to help you?
Let us give you the first one. We think you are tough just because you tried this game. It’s not easy to participate in an interactive blog, especially when it gets so personal so fast!
(Above is a sample of a self-esteem flower we created at a recent community event. We cut out flower petals and challenged all girls and instructors to fill up the flower with things they like about themselves… what would your flower be filled with?)