Is It Bullying?


In Long Beach, CA, this week marks the start of the new school year. In many other school districts and areas in the country, students are already getting settled into the year. School can be overwhelming not only because of the stress of homework and assignments, but because of interpersonal dynamics with classmates. More time is spent at school and with other students than at home with family and loved ones. I thought this week would be the perfect time to share a great article in the Huffington Post on the differences between someone being rude, mean and actually being a bully. The author emphasizes that there is a real need to draw a distinction between behavior that is rude, behavior that is mean and behavior that is characteristic of bullying. That if we continue to mislabel interactions (and use the word bullying when it is not appropriate), we will become immune or desensitized to the term “bullying,” and won’t be able to help a child in need when it’s most important. Kind of like the idea of the boy who cried wolf. This is great for both students and parents to read in order to equip yourself (or loved one) for the year ahead — and new social situations. Check out the entire artcicle Rude vs. Mean vs. Bullying: Defining the Differences written by Signe Whitson, a child and adolescent therapist. I hope you find it enlightening and relevant, just like I did.

-Alex W.


Creative Solutions to Cyberbullying

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I don’t know about you but I sure have a love-hate relationship with the internet. I love how it connects us with ideas, increases our knowledge, improves our opportunity for success, connects us with friends and acquaintances, and improves our ability to network and touch more people. What I don’t like about technology and the internet is that it creates a divide in face-to-face contact, decreases our connection with others, and allows some people the false sense of protection and an increased comfort zone to impulsively speak out and attack others. The cyber-world, unfortunately, can be a place where some feel empowered and boosted up to gang up against others and say some mean things. Both kids and grown ups are susceptible to this type of behavior called “cyber-bullying.” Cyber-bullying is defined as the use of information technology to harm or harass other people in a deliberate, repeated, and hostile manners. The topic has been newsworthy in recent years because of stories about young individuals across the nation who have harmed themselves due to ongoing cyber-bullying, yet there are so many more people who have fallen prey to this bullying who have not had the publicity (and luckily still can have the support to help intervene and stop the attacks). That’s where we can come into play…

Our world is changing, technology is getting faster, and the use of the internet and social media is not going to slow down. People, education, and business are using technology for all forms of communication. According to cyber-bullying statistics, over 50% of adolescents have reported being bullied online and 1 in 3 young people have been threatened online. It seems as though, without an increase in awareness and intervention in our neighborhoods, schools and communities, these statistics will only increase. That leaves it to us (you, me and our communities) to take a proactive role in making sure that this is not our future. A friend shared a really neat article that was posted in the Huffington Post recently about a middle schooler her applied for the 2014 Google Science Fair. She created the idea of an alert system that would ask teens to rethink their actions before posting anything harmful online. Her study found that when participants were given an alert asking them to rethink their actions before potentially posting something hurtful, there was a 93% reduction in the number of adolescents willing to post abusive messages. Wow, that is pretty awesome! You can check out more about this science fair project here — Teen Creates Awesome Science Project That Could Help Stop Cyberbullying.

Reading the article about the young lady who thought of a way to actively combat cyber-bullying made me realize we can all actively participate in this discussion, and positively influence the prevelance of online bullying. Just because people hide behind a smart phone or computer screen to say things to people, does not mean we ever need to be okay with it. I want to continue to love the internet and social media, although that means (for me) negativity needs to be minimized online. There is so much positive that can be had through sharing ideas and knowledge via technology. I hope you take the time to read this article and it sparks some discussion of how you can contribute to decreasing online bullying through sharing creative solutions and ideas you might have. Just think, your ideas might just save someone, and who knows what the world could be like with all of our ideas working together.

-Alex W.

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