A New Kind Of Resolution

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I think New Year Resolutions are important. I make them every year, but sadly, achieve them less than 50 percent of the time. Maybe it’s because most of mine have been about getting down to size-impossible and rocking a tanned and toned bikini bod. For what? I’m happily married to a man who loves my curves and naturally un-tanned skin, and let’s face it, I am a mom, who’s pregnant again, and have no time or desire to hit the beach for Spring Break. So, I say, forget the typical fitness goal this year (I am writing this as I devour a delicious bowl of salted caramel and hazelnut ice cream), my 2015 New Year Resolution gets down to what really matters in my life: practicing patience and being present.

Being a stay-at-home mom to a busy toddler, while carrying baby #2 (due in June), has helped me realize that I am not patient, in fact, I am high-strung and typically exhausted. Road rage, snapping at my son or husband before assessing the situation, and the constant feeling of needing to rush through my day/week/month is not okay — it’s taking a toll on me, and the ones I love. So, this year, I will demonstrate patience by being in the moment, being thoughtful, taking deep breaths, and occasionally disconnecting from my phone, tablet, laptop, etc.

When I told my husband about my goal, he asked: “How will you measure if you achieved it?” My answer was simple: “I will see how I feel this time next year.” If I’m still feeling constantly stressed and rushed, then I did not achieve my goal. So much good can come from my resolution to be patient and present. Here are 10 benefits off the top of my head:

  1. I will become a better listener
  2. I will not feel anxiety in my daily life
  3. I will have less tension in my back and shoulders
  4. I will snap less often at my toddler (husband, and others)
  5. I will savor and enjoy the milestones of my second pregnancy
  6. I will sleep better
  7. I will make healthier eating choices
  8. I will get back into yoga
  9. I will feel more fulfilled
  10. I will set a good example for my children and those around me

Doesn’t that all sound awesome? What is your 2015 resolution?

-Lauren T.

Don’t Grow Up So Fast

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I am not sure about you, but every so often I come across a song that really resonates with me. It reminds me of something I believe in or have experienced, and I am then touched by it. Songs can hit you and be inspirational, moving and can compel action. I have found that I can remember life’s moments through songs, almost as though the song acts as a mental filing system for me. A song can come on in my car, or at an event, really anywhere — and I can escape right back to the memory, and then revel in those moments.

I had the good fortune to see a band I have loved for years (Train) perform in Los Angeles last week. Talk about a band that brings memories fresh to my head when I hear their songs! At the concert they performed a new song of theirs that I had never heard before. It was beautiful and has stayed with me since. I thought it was worthy of sharing on the blog because of its meaning. The name of the song is “Don’t Grow Up So Fast,” and the lead singer of Train wrote the song for his children about the importance of not rushing their experiences by growing up too quickly. For me, I immediately understood the meaning of the words. I could look back to my pre-teen and teen years, and how I wanted to grow up and be to that next phase in my life. I was rushing through moments and not spending enough time reveling in them. Looking back now, I wish I could have embraced them more.

Regardless of your age, I think that is a struggle we all have — rushing through life in order to get to the next thing. This song reminds me of the quote “Sometimes you will never know the true value of a moment until it becomes a memory.” With everything that has happened in my life over the past year, I could not think of a more important sentiment to share with each person I come into contact with. Please take these words to heart — and be as present as you can in moments. I hope you’ll take a few minutes to listen to the song (the lyrics are also listed below). I think we all would benefit from slowing our lives down a bit, enjoying our current moments, and not feeling rushed to be experiencing the next thing.

-Alex W.

Don’t Grow Up So Fast by Train

You want it all right now, let’s hurry up and wait
Girl, you’re right on time, trust me, you’re not too late
I hate to see you rain, those mascara tears
But you can drown in the water beyond your years

Just don’t grow up so fast
You don’t want to know what I know yet
Maybe on paper it looks better way up here
Don’t you hurry, try to take it slow
You will get there before you know it
Ain’t just the bad times, the good times too shall pass
So don’t grow up so fast

The world will turn, shadows fall
There’s your pencil marks in the corner on the kitchen wall
Yeah, to remind us all

Just don’t grow up so fast
You don’t want to know what I know yet
Maybe on paper it looks better way up here
Don’t you hurry, try to take it slow
You will get there before you know it
Ain’t just the bad times, the good times too shall pass
So don’t grow up so fast, ooh

Just don’t grow up so fast
You don’t want to know what I know yet
Maybe on paper it looks better way up here
Don’t you hurry, try to take it slow
We all get there before you know it
Ain’t just the bad times, the good times too shall pass
There’s only so much sand in the hour glass
So don’t grow up so fast, ooh