Wishing Safe, Healthy & Happy Holidays to All


All of the volunteers that make the Confidence Post possible want to thank you for your support, and we wish you a safe, healthy, and happy holiday season! Please make sure to take the time to appreciate the blessings you have during this holiday season and show appreciation for those you care about. We will be back after the new year. Until then, be safe and have a great time with family and friends!

Warm regards,

The Confidence Post

Time to Turkey Trot


I’ve always had a hate love relationship with exercise. I hate doing it, but love how it makes me feel. I’ve been chubby all my life and my slow metabolism has not improved any with age and 2 kids. The last time I would consider myself to have been in shape was 4 years ago, before I got pregnant with my oldest. So, instead of setting a weight goal, or size goal, I set a post 2nd baby fitness goal so I would focus on getting heart healthy, instead of thin.

I’ve never been a runner and dear g-d, now I know why. I really don’t like it, but started in March at whatever I could physically do and set my goal from there. So, I ponied up and clocked my 1st mile at 18 minutes. I injured my back in July, which created some significant setbacks, then realized by September that if I didn’t set a firm time frame in which to achieve my goal, it would just fizzle away. So, I started a Facebook group to keep myself accountable and told myself I’d hit my goal by Thanksgiving.

So my goal? The Turkey Trot. 5k, 39 minutes (appx 12 minute mile). Right now I’m running a mile in about 13 minutes, which would be great if the race wasn’t the day after tomorrow. I’m seriously scared and wondering why in the world I would announce my goal to Facebook land. What if I fail? I have amassed a group of women who are stronger runners to run “with me” to keep me motivated. I don’t want to let them down. I don’t want to have to report back to Facebook tomorrow that I set my goal to just miss the mark. I hope I make it, but am not confident I will.

So?! I did it!!! I didn’t think I would, but I did. I started out of the gate strong and then had to walk portions of the race. I thought for sure I wasn’t going to make it. I even thought at one point I was going to hurl in the sand. “Focus on your breathing, your legs, your feet. Anything but your stomach”. Then I started noticing the people around me. Some wearing knee braces, some limping through, some in wheelchairs. WTF Mary?!?!?! If you have 2 working legs and feet and can put one in front of the other, then just do it!!!

I eventually found (or realized I was pacing with) someone who was running with her trainer. Towards the finish line, the trainer was talking about finishing strong. So I started sprinting towards the finish line. By the time I could see the clock it was at 38:40! Seeing the seconds fly by propelled me at an even greater speed and I hit the finish line at 38:50.

I cried. Cried. I couldn’t believe it. It was as if all the hard work and hours behind the treadmill and on the street were all of a sudden worth it. After the turn around I thought for sure I was doing too much walking to make it under 40 minutes. But I did. Technically I hit the starting line at 1:50 because of the crowd, so it’s truly a 37 minute 5k.

Am I still chubby? Do I still dislike running? Did I decide to suck it up, dig in and do it anyway? Yes yes and yes. It was SO rewarding and a fabulous reminder of all I have to be thankful for.

I hope you all had a happy Thanksgiving!

-Mary S.

Holiday Stress


The holiday season is in full swing and it seems like these next few weeks will be just a blur for us.  There’s Thanksgiving dinner to be made, shopping for gifts, and parties to attend just to name a few. It’s true that the holidays can be stressful, but it doesn’t always have to be. This year you can better handle the stress with these tips.

Set your game plan.  Be realistic with all your holiday plans by taking an overview look at your calendar. When it comes to holiday events, you’ll enjoy the season more when you make plans selectively. Your family and friends will understand if you cannot be at every gathering or activity. You can enjoy more quality time with your loved ones and create holiday memories that will last beyond the holiday season.

Know when to say no. It’s easy to say ‘yes’ to everyone, but in the end its affects you both mentally and physically. I know this feeling through experience because I always want to do everything I can for those around me. Overwhelming yourself with more responsibilities doesn’t help you or the person you’re trying to help. Be realistic and set your limits accordingly this holiday season in terms of your time and effort.

Don’t take on any additional financial burdens. We all want to give the latest and greatest gifts to our loved ones, but ask this question…“At what price?” Taking on additional financial burdens will not only affect you now but also later when debt payments continue. I have found that making a clear outline on what you would like to achieve helps you spend within reason and also shows careful consideration. There are always alternatives to spending money and giving gifts. As a society, we are hypnotized to buy everything on sale but if you take a step back and reconsider your ultimate goal you can shop wisely.

Ask for help. Always remember, the holiday season is about spending time with your friends and family. Don’t overwhelm yourself with doing too much. Instead, spend your time with your family and friends. For instance, if you’re hosting dinner for your family, ask them to come early and help with decorations and preparing the table.

Take care of yourself. Sometimes we try taking on so much that we forget that we’re still human. Take 15 minutes to yourself and find a quiet place and meditate. By doing this, you’ll feel refreshed and energized and ready to take on the rest of your day.

Most important of all, take the time to pause and remember, each day is precious; cherish the time you have.

– Giorgina R.